I meet a lot of women who say "I wish I could do that." You can! I would love to see more beautiful black women embrace their natural strands. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not an anti-straight strand sista, but I would love to see more women viewing straight hair as a styling option and not as a required beauty treatment. Personally, I haven't worn my hair straight in 5 years and I have no future plans of straightening it. I am . . . Learning to Love Me Naturally.
Are you offended when someone refers to your hair as "nappy" or are you one of those "happy to be nappy" folks?
Personally, I don't necessarily embrace the word although I love my "My Hair is Nappy My Life is Straight" t-shirt. I embrace that shirt primarily because of the message it sends. People tend to think that wearing your hair naturally is supposed to complicate your life, so I love the powerful message of the shirt, which plays on the word "nappy."
There's no doubting the power in the texture
I also understand that many people do not intend to be offensive, but use the word to describe the 4 a/b/c texture. Some naturals who chose to avoid the word, use "kinky," "curly," or "coily" to describe this texture. However, I recognize that a lot of non-natural people would not recognize my texture as "curly" (they probably would laugh at the thought!) and coily is a word that was introduced to me by the natural hair community, so I'm sure they wouldn't use that word either. Additionally, "kinky" is often used to describe "kinky twists," which I'm not wearing, so what's left? Nappy. When my mother talks about nappy hair, she's referring to the texture and that's the only way she knows how to describe it. How can I get mad at that especially when that was how I used to describe my own hair? Now, I can give my mother a list of PC words to use in place of "nappy," but I don't feel the need. I understand what she means and I take that approach with others who use the word to describe the texture.
On the other hand, there are people who use the word in an offensive way and follow it up with a strong suggestion for you to straighten or relax it. I'm not a fan of combating ignorance with ignorance, so unless that person catches me at a bad time, then I try to be sophisticated and strong and let them know that I love my hair as is and have no intentions of changing it. With that said, I'm human, so if they catch me at a bad time, then they get what they get! LOL